You have a great question, sis. The answer is surprisingly simple, but of course, I know it won't feel simple at all to your heart! Please know that I share this with you because I love you, and I want God's BEST for you.
I can tell you straight up that this guy is NOT what's best for you. He may be a "really nice guy," but he clearly isn't man enough to respect your body and your boundaries. You deserve to be treated better; you deserve someone who will love you so much that he wouldn't have sex with you before marriageeven if you wanted to. This guy is pressuring you to have sex, even though you know it's wrong. To me, that's an absolute deal breaker in a relationship. I know you're afraid that if you say no you will lose him, but honestly sis, the best thing you can do for yourself is to break up with him now. Don't let yourself think of it as you "losing him"—it's the other way around. He is losing you because he doesn't know how to treat a girl with respect!
I have a hunch that you already knew what my answer would be, yet you asked anyway, which leads me to believe that you already know what to do, but you need a pep talk to do it! So I hope these words will give you the courage to do what you know is right.
Love,
I can tell you straight up that this guy is NOT what's best for you. He may be a "really nice guy," but he clearly isn't man enough to respect your body and your boundaries. You deserve to be treated better; you deserve someone who will love you so much that he wouldn't have sex with you before marriageeven if you wanted to. This guy is pressuring you to have sex, even though you know it's wrong. To me, that's an absolute deal breaker in a relationship. I know you're afraid that if you say no you will lose him, but honestly sis, the best thing you can do for yourself is to break up with him now. Don't let yourself think of it as you "losing him"—it's the other way around. He is losing you because he doesn't know how to treat a girl with respect!
I have a hunch that you already knew what my answer would be, yet you asked anyway, which leads me to believe that you already know what to do, but you need a pep talk to do it! So I hope these words will give you the courage to do what you know is right.
Love,