The fact that you're asking this question shows that there is a seed of doubt in your heart about whether you should be in the relationship. If you're wondering how the relationship you're in now could be compromising your future marriage or your relationship with Christ, there must be something you see in the relationship that you know isn't bringing God the most glory possible. I don't know what that thing is, but the best advice I can give you is not to ignore it. If you sense God whispering in your ear that he wants your heart to be wholly His (that a relationship with this guy isn't what He wants for you right now), don't ignore Him! Remember, even though this guy you're dating seems wonderful, God knows what's best for you, so listen to Him.
As for my perspective on dating before marriage... Here it is, but remember, these are just my opinions.
I definitely think that it's BEST to wait to date until you're in a place where you can do "something about it" (in other words, get married if he's the one). I figured out over the years that dating just to date is beyond pointless because it always ends up in heartache. So really, you should be dating with the idea that you're trying to see if this is the man you want to spend your whole life with. I'm all for hanging out with guy friends in groups, getting to know them as friends, being a "student" of those guys to find out what makes them tick. When you're sincerely just friends with guys, you get to learn so much about who they REALLY are. (When you're dating, you only tend to see a guy's best side.) Really the only thing you're missing by just being friends with guys is the physical side of a relationship, which gets dangerous real fast anyway.
That said, I don't think it's WRONG to date when you're in high school, as long as your parents have said that's okay (that's huge!) and as long as you are bringing God glory. You can "make God look good" in your relationship by keeping your feelings in check, by putting God first, by setting up clear boundaries physically, and by practicing biblical love (like it talks about in 1 Corinthians 13). Unfortunately, the chances of a high school relationship lasting until you're old enough to get married are pretty slim...Which means that at some point there will be a breakup...and those hurt! Also keep in mind that every time you care for a guy in a romantic way, in essence you're giving a small piece of your heart to him. The more relationships you have, the less "heart" you'll have to give to your husband when God does finally bring him your way. To sum it all up, I don't think it's a sin to date in high school, but I do think it's better to wait.
How influential will this guy be in your life? I really can't answer that for you, but I can tell you that I still feel the consequences (emotionally) of just about every relationship I've ever had, whether it lasted a few weeks or a few years. That's definitely something to consider!
I hope that helps, sis. Whatever you do, keep seeking God's will for your life, even when it's hard to accept what you know He's telling you. That's the only way to live life without regrets.
Love,
