Oh, sis! I am so sorry that it hurts so much. Breakups are never easy, but it sounds like this one has cut you especially deep. You have totally expressed what so many girls feel after a breakup. When you have given so much of your heart to someone, if they walk away it can make you feel worthless, especially if you have found your worth in that person. Drinking will not change the way you feel. (I'm sure you've already discovered that!) That's like putting a Band Aid on a greased watermelon. The only way to allow your heart to heal is to start getting your worth from the right place—from the God who created you and adores you just as He made you, faults and all. Guys come and go, sis, but your Divine Suitor will never stop pursuing you, will never stop rejoicing in your beauty, will never stop doing cartwheels when you return His love. You are made for Him, not for some guy who doesn't know what he has let go.

Your heart is going to hurt for a while, there's no way around that. But your sadness doesn't need to consume you. Allow God to turn your hurt into a thing of beauty—allow Him to make beauty from ashes—by laying your bruised heart at the foot of the Cross and asking Christ to forgive you for finding your worth in another. He loves (absolutely loves) to wrap His strong arms around us when we're hurting. Psalm 34 has been a source of encouragement and (tempered) joy after more than one difficult breakup. I encourage you to memorize verses 18-19 this week. (This is the New Living Translation.)

1  A psalm of David, regarding the time he pretended to be insane in front of Abimelech, who sent him away. I will praise the LORD at all times. I will constantly speak His praises.

2  I will boast only in the LORD; let all who are helpless take heart.

3  Come, let us tell of the LORD's greatness; let us exalt His name together.

4  I prayed to the LORD, and He answered me. He freed me from all my fears.

5  Those who look to Him for help will be radiant with joy; no shadow of shame will darken their faces.

6  In my desperation I prayed, and the LORD listened; He saved me from all my troubles.

7  For the angel of the LORD is a guard; he surrounds and defends all who fear Him.

8  Taste and see that the LORD is good. Oh, the joys of those who take refuge in Him!

9  Fear the LORD, you His godly people, for those who fear Him will have all they need.

10  Even strong young lions sometimes go hungry, but those who trust in the LORD will lack no good thing.

11  Come, my children, and listen to me, and I will teach you to fear the LORD.

12  Does anyone want to live a life that is long and prosperous?

13  Then keep your tongue from speaking evil and your lips from telling lies!

14  Turn away from evil and do good. Search for peace, and work to maintain it.

15  The eyes of the LORD watch over those who do right; His ears are open to their cries for help.

16  But the LORD turns His face against those who do evil; He will erase their memory from the earth.

17  The LORD hears His people when they call to Him for help. He rescues them from all their troubles.

18  The LORD is close to the brokenhearted; He rescues those whose spirits are crushed.

19  The righteous person faces many troubles, but the LORD comes to the rescue each time.

20  For the LORD protects the bones of the righteous; not one of them is broken!

21  Calamity will surely overtake the wicked, and those who hate the righteous will be punished.

22  But the LORD will redeem those who serve Him. No one who takes refuge in Him will be condemned.

I will be praying for you this week, sis, and please, please feel free to email again if you're having a hard day or have more questions, or need more verses. I'm here for you!

 

Love,