I can see why you would be disappointed and wonder why your parents won't let you go (since they allowed him to come on your family vacation). I don't know their specific reasons, but I do know that the best—absolute best—thing you can do in this situation is to respect their decision, as hard as that is. There are two reasons why. First, if you honor their decision by not complaining or whining or eye-rolling, etc., it will actually build their trust in you, which is always a good thing for a young woman seeking increased independence. (Besides, arguing with them over it will just strengthen their resolve not to let you go this time, or probably the next time either!) The second, more important, reason is that God has called you to honor and respect your parents no matter how unfair they may seem at times. It's one of the ways that He teaches His daughters obedience; and when we do obey Him, He promises blessings (another very good thing!).

Looking back now, I can see that even when my parents made decisions that were definitely unfair in my book, God used them to protect me from things I knew nothing about at the time. When you look back on this situation many years from now, you might just see the same thing. But even if not, God will remember your obedience.

Just a thought, but maybe you could explain to your parents that you accept their decision, but that you're disappointed you won't be able to celebrate your one year anniversary and were wondering if they have any ideas about how you could celebrate it when he gets back to make it special. They might have some good suggestions, you never know! And if they're in on the planning, they may be more likely to show some lenience.

Love,