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I’ve had a crush on one of my guy friends for a while. For a while, I really thought he liked me back. He would always flirt with me and stuff. A friend convinced me to tell him that I like him, which I kind of regret now. He was really nice for a while, but then he started liking one of my best friends, and she liked him back, despite of me and my feelings. (I’m having a really hard time forgiving her for that!) Well, they broke up today. Should I let him know that I still like him? Or should I even like him?
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One of my so-called friends, R, ran his mouth and told this girl that I called her a—you know—which I did, ‘cause, well, she is…but anyways, what do I do about R? He’s a totally new person, in a bad way, and I can’t deal with it anymore.
Can I be honest with
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My friends at school are not Christians, and I feel completely alone. They are ALWAYS gossiping about each other and things that happened at the party on the weekend and stuff like that. I try my best not to gossip too, but then I'm completely left out. I try to act like a Christian, and I have invited some of them to youth group, but they would rather go to a party. What do I do? How am I supposed to act? It gets to me that I have no close Christian friends to share my secrets with and talk to. I feel really alone.
First of all, I have to tell
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I recently transferred schools and I’m just starting to really connect with the other kids in the school. It’s great! Well, there's this boy in the school who I really, REALLY like, and he really likes me too, and we both want to go out. Here’s the problem: One of my new friends used to go out with him and still really likes him, and pretty much hates any other girl that likes him. I really want to be friends with her, but this guys means sooooo much to me! Should I save the friendship or go out with this AMAZING guy who I REALLLLY like? HELP!!!
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Last year my best friend went away to college and we just grew apart. I still consider her my best friend, but I don't ever get to talk to her, see her, or hang out with her. It's hard. I've always been very shy and find it hard to make friends. Now I don't have any really good friends. There are a couple of girls I would call friends, but no one to really share things in my life with. I don't know what my problem is, but I just can't seem to find anyone I can really trust. Any advice?
Making friends is hard! And it's even harder when a good friend drifts out
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A really good friend of mine has lately been ditching me to hang out with some guys. It has hurt me a lot. Whenever she hangs out with them, she lets me know like she’s trying to make me jealous. She has really hurt my feelings, and I want to confront her about it. My mom thinks I should wait, because she might get upset or jealous. I agree, but I really want to let my friend know how she has hurt me. What do you think I should do?
If your friend is also a Christian, then she's not only a friend, but
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I’ve known a boy that a like for about five years. The problem is that he might like friend number one, and friend number one doesn’t like him. Then friend number two likes him, but he doesn’t like her. And I like him, and I think he likes me. He comes over to my house a lot, but I don’t know if he’s just there for friends one and two, or for me. I like him so much. What should I do?
Sounds like a crush triangle if I ever saw one! :-) Alright, so here's
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My friend had a little brother with cancer and autism. He was and is her favorite person and she just absolutely adores him and loves him. He just passed away, and she comes to me to talk about everything. How do I help her in this situation?
Wow—that's tough! I lost my mom to cancer, so I understand that your friend
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I am a Christian and I hate myself for what I feel I’m becoming. I have a really close gal friend that I think I have started liking...like more than as a friend. I like her personality and am attracted to her. But I am so afraid of what to do. I know that homosexuality is a sin. Does this mean I do not belong to God? I don't know what to do with myself.
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My friend and I have been close for a long time, but now all she can think about is guys! I feel shut out because I’m not going out with someone. It hurts me to see her so much more concerned about her outside appearance than what’s inside. I want to still be her friend, but part of me isn’t so sure. What do you suggest I do? Do I love her for who she is, or do I leave her in the dust?
What a great question! The teen years are famous for friendship trouble because it’s a time of life when girls change all the time as they...
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My friend and I have been best friends since elementary school, but as we have gotten older and started dating guys, it seems as though whenever she gets a boyfriend she completely shuts me out until the guy either breaks up with her or they have a fight or something, and then she comes running to me. I absolutely love her and always want to help and be there to listen and allow her to vent, but I feel kind of used. It just seems like when things get rough on my end and I go to her she tells me, “Sorry, there’s nothing I can do for you—get over it,” when all I want is a best friend to listen. I have talked to her about this, and nothing has changed. Part of me just wants so say, “Sorry—deal with your boy problems on your own this time.” Would that be wrong of me? What’s your advice on this?
Your friend is very lucky to have you, I can tell you that much!
It’s pretty common that as girlfriends get older, and guys become more and...
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There are three of us girls that are best friends. I’m closer with J than with R, but I’ve known R the longest. Lately we’ve been having friend problems, and when we talk about it, we just point out all the things that the others do wrong. The other day we all went to the movies, and I felt like J and R were teaming up and acting like best friends. I got mad about something they said, and was a little mean to them about it, and then I didn’t talk to them after that. (I sometimes get angry easily with my friends.) I want to tell them how they hurt me, but I’ll sound selfish and mean. What should I do?
I think the first thing to do is apologize for the things you said that you know you shouldn’t have, and for getting angry with your friends...
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One of my closest friends is struggling with being single (she’s 18). She’s mad that she has been single her whole life. She wants a boyfriend so bad, I’m worried about her! Jessie, I’m single (and 16), and I am GLAD I’m single! I know God made her with this desire to be loved by a guy, and I know there’s a guy out there that God has just for her. But sometimes it get so tiring, hearing her complain about not having a boyfriend. She always dresses to get attention from guys, sometimes even if it means being immodest.
I think you should be the one writing the advice! Your maturity is so refreshing, sis. It’s rare to talk to a girl who actually appreciates the...
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I’ve been having some trouble with gossip. I keep making excuse for doing it even though I know it is wrong. I don’t realize I’m doing it at that time, but afterwards I notice that it hasn’t helped me get over whatever I was struggling with. How do I stop gossiping when everyone around me is doing it, and what is another way of getting out my frustrations in life?
Gossip is ugly, isn’t it? I’m proud of you, though, for recognizing that you do it and wanting to change! I honestly think that’s...
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I have a friend who is very openly bisexual. I've always hated when people like her get "shunned" for such beliefs; she's a great person and fun to hang out with. I love her, but not what she does. I want to be an example, but not push her away. How should I respond when she flaunts her orientation so loudly?
I admire the love that you have for your friend, that you would want to help her without judging her. The truth is, she's lost without Christ in her...
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My best friend and I have been best friends since 8th grade (we're now juniors in high school). Last year she had this boyfriend, and while they were going out she totally ignored me. She put him first in everything. It was like I was being replaced. After they broke up, they became friends and now they are talking about getting back together. I am just afraid I am going to get replaced again. What should I do? I want to talk to her, but I don't want us to get in a fight.
What a tough situation! I don't blame you for being scared of getting hurt again. I think you're right to want to talk to her, and I think you can do...
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I have a friend who has strayed from God. She's going through some tough stuff in her life, but obviously nothing God can't handle. I try to be kind and loving toward her, but it makes me really sad and sometimes frustrated that she won't just trust God. I mean, I understand that it's a hard thing to do, but still, if theres no where else to turn... She keeps telling me all the bad stuff in her life, but the thing is, she only sees the bad stuff in her life. It seems like she doesn't even look for the good stuff anymore. I've never had a close friend openly admit to not believing in God anymore and I really don't know what to say when I talk to her. Any advice? Is there anything I can do to help?
I can totally relate to what you're feeling. It can be extremely frustrating to watch a friend we care about so much just not "get it." We both know...
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My best friend is gorgeous and extremely skinny, and I always find myself being jealous of her. Her boyfriend tells her all the time how “hot” she is, and his friends tell him how beautiful they think she is. They are the nicest guys and never say anything bad about me, but I just can’t stop myself from wishing I looked like her or something similar. Before I go to bed at night I read my Bible and ask God to give me comfort and self-assurance, and I feel 100% better...until I see her at school the next day, and then it all comes back again. How do I get over this jealousy?
First of all, thanks for your honesty, sis! You make total sense! And you are far from alone in the feelings you expressed. So many of us girls...
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I have a friend who has kind of strayed from God. She's going through some tough stuff in her life, but obviously nothing that God can't handle. I try to be kind and loving toward her, but it makes me really sad and sometimes frustrated that she won't just trust God. She only sees the bad stuff in her life; it seems like she doesn't even look for the good stuff anymore. I guess I've never really had a close friend openly admit to not believing in God anymore and I really don't know what to say when I talk to her. Any advice?
I can totally relate to what you're feeling. It can be extremely frustrating to watch a friend we care about so much just not "get it." We both know...
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How do you determine who is a great friend and who isn't? Also, how do you get past the "mask" people put up so you can talk to the "real them" inside?
A great friend will tell you the truth, even when it hurts. She'll share your beliefs and point you toward God (instead of pull you away from Him),...
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