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Being in college, I am really focusing on my walk with the Lord and finding my purpose. My boyfriend of three years supports my faith and has come to church occasionally, but I really feel the need to marry a godly man. With this said, I made a really difficult decision to end things. It was a struggle between having such an easy, loving and comfortable relationship, and wanting to wait for the man God has made for me... Now, though, I'm stuck here thinking no man will ever love me as much as he did! I can't help but think this is going to be a long and lonely period of waiting around, while he moves on thinking I'm crazy and finding another girl! Have you ever experienced a situation like this? Have any encouraging words that I made the right decision?
For what it's worth, I
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I recently transferred schools and I’m just starting to really connect with the other kids in the school. It’s great! Well, there's this boy in the school who I really, REALLY like, and he really likes me too, and we both want to go out. Here’s the problem: One of my new friends used to go out with him and still really likes him, and pretty much hates any other girl that likes him. I really want to be friends with her, but this guys means sooooo much to me! Should I save the friendship or go out with this AMAZING guy who I REALLLLY like? HELP!!!
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The guy I like has a girlfriend, but she lives far away and doesn’t even go to our school. I want to ask him out, but I am afraid he will say no. What should I do? Should I ask him out for the dance? Should I tell him how I feel about him? I think he likes me too.
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I know that God is helping me get through the pain of my boyfriend breaking up with me. But it hurts so much—I can’t stop crying. Knowing that he has forgotten about me and moved on makes me so sad and it's making me go crazy. I started to drink, hoping the pain will go away, but my heart feels like it’s ripping apart because of him.
Oh, sis! I am so sorry that it hurts so much. Breakups are never easy, but
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I’ve known a boy that a like for about five years. The problem is that he might like friend number one, and friend number one doesn’t like him. Then friend number two likes him, but he doesn’t like her. And I like him, and I think he likes me. He comes over to my house a lot, but I don’t know if he’s just there for friends one and two, or for me. I like him so much. What should I do?
Sounds like a crush triangle if I ever saw one! :-) Alright, so here's
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My boyfriend and I have both just graduated high school, and are going to different colleges this fall. I have no idea how to make a long distance relationship work. We agreed that this is a relationship we really want to work on, but I'm worried that once he gets there, he's going to forget all about me. After all, he'll be surrounded by hot college girls out on the hunt for a college boyfriend, parties, and clubs. I know I sound so insecure and clingy and jealous, but I don't want to be! I'm really trying to surrender my worries to God, and to trust both God and my boyfriend, but it's really hard! What can I do to help my relationship with my boyfriend last through the distance and separation of college?
I've given a lot of thought to your question, and (ironically) it boils down to one
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Is it wrong to get that fluttery feeling in your stomach whenever there is a guy you like around, or when he hugs you or something? Is that actually liking someone, or is that just being silly?
No, the "fluttery feeling" isn't wrong, but we girls have to be careful that
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I've been dating this guy for three months. He's not a virgin anymore, but I am, and every time we talk on the phone, he talks about how the next time we see each other he wants to have sex with me. I really like this guy, but I’m feeling pressure to have sex with him when I’m not ready to lose my virginity. I’m afraid that if I say no I will lose him. He wants to have a family with me, but I’m not sure this is the guy I want to be with. I don’t know what to do!
You have a great question, sis. The answer is surprisingly simple, but of course,
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My boyfriend is a senior and he's not a Christian. I'm a freshman and I am a Christian. I know that sounds like the perfect recipe for disaster, but I know that he respects me and my boundaries and he is completely open to Christianity. My parents like him a lot and trust that he won't do anything to put me in any harm. We take him to church with us on most weekends. My boyfriend, although he is not a Christian, is "spiritual but not religious," meaning he believes in all the principles of being a Christian, but is not necessarily tied to one religion. I consider him more respectful and honest than most of the Christian guys that I grew up with. He doesn't take advantage of me, and if he wants to do something with me that he deems questionable, he always asks me first. Bottom line, if I am in a relationship with a guy who is not a Christian, but he is being drawn closer to God through me, is there anything wrong with that?
While a three or four year age difference in high school is a bigger
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I haven't had a boyfriend in awhile, and I'm not sure if it’s me that's stopping me or if God doesn't want me to have one. I guess I just want to feel wanted, but I also want to do what God wants me to do. I guess I'm having a hard time dealing with no boyfriend!
Well, I'm not God, so I can't tell you what He's up to in
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I've been talking to a boy for a few months now. I just went out with him, but he hasn't talked to me since then. I always get depressed when he doesn't text me, which makes me feel too clingy and insecure, but my friends say that he likes me and that I don't need to worry. Do you have any advice that will help me from feeling this way?
Hi sis,
Great question! I obviously can't tell you whether or not this guy is into you, but I can definitely give you some encouragement to help you...
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My boyfriend just dumped me. He said he wasn't ready for a relationship yet. What should I say or do?
I'm sorry that it hurts, sis! Breakups are painful, there's just no way around that. But after a good cry-it-out and a handful of chocolate chips,...
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I like this guy, and I’m pretty sure that he likes me. He’s a year younger than me, and my friends don’t like him because he makes stupid jokes. He’s really fun, but I don’t know if I should like him or not! And if I do, should I make the first move or wait?
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This boy I like knows I like him, and we talk a lot. But I don’t know if he’s a Christian. How do I ask him without ruining what I have with him?
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My friend and I have been close for a long time, but now all she can think about is guys! I feel shut out because I’m not going out with someone. It hurts me to see her so much more concerned about her outside appearance than what’s inside. I want to still be her friend, but part of me isn’t so sure. What do you suggest I do? Do I love her for who she is, or do I leave her in the dust?
What a great question! The teen years are famous for friendship trouble because it’s a time of life when girls change all the time as they...
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There is this guy that likes me, and I kind of like him back, but my mom doesn’t want me to date until I am in high school. My mom already made me tell him that I don’t like him, so he doesn’t go any further. What do I do?
If your mom has made the decision that you have to wait until high school to date, then the absolute best thing you can do is honor her decision....
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There's this guy at my school that I like and he likes me, but I feel like the only thing he likes me for is my body. Whenever I am around him he is very touchy and it just makes me uncomfortable. The other day he subtly mentioned that he wanted sex from me and I just don't know what to do. I want to pull away from him but I don't know how. It's hard because in some sick way I like the attention, but in my heart I know that it's not genuine affection and I need to walk away from it. Do you have any advice for me?
Thank you for being honest with me, and—especially—with yourself. If you "feel like the only thing he likes [you] for is your body," you...
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I recently developed a crush on this guy I've known for 12 years—basically ever since elementary school. We text and talk to each other all the time at school, but he has a girlfriend. And some of my friends have told me that he knows that I like him, and he told them he feels bad because he thinks I'm “nice.” What should I do? High School graduation is coming up, and we're going to different colleges so I may never see him again. Should I tell him my feelings?
I don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer to your question, so I can only tell you what I would do in your shoes. As tempting as it...
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I feel like I have been playing matchmaker with my friends lately. In three months, I’ve set up three of my close friends with guy friends of mine. Now all three girls are happy in their relationships, and always talk about their guys to me. I mean, it makes me feel great that they trust me and all, but now I feel like I really want a boyfriend. Problem is, I'm not allowed to even group date for another three years, and then I’m not allowed to have a boyfriend until college! I know my mom has the best in mind for me and all, but I can't help feeling jealous and like my mom is being overprotective. I've prayed about it for a long time, but I still feel the same! Can you please shine some light on my situation?
Aw, that is hard! It would be insincere to say that you should just get over it, because I know how hard it is to stay focused on God and content...
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I was in a relationship with a guy for about four months. It was a really good relationship, but recently he broke up with me because he had a lot of things going on in his life that he couldn’t balance. His parents are divorced and he doesn’t have a good relationship with his dad, so that affected him and our relationship. So I gave him space, and then after finals were over I thought he would come and talk to me about where our relationship stands, but he didn’t. I tried contacting him to ask him if we could talk so we could have closure, but he didn’t respond. So I have been moving on little by little, but it hurts. Prom is coming around, and I was thinking that if he asked me I would say yes. But my dad says that I should not go with him because I would end up getting hurt again. So my main problem is what to do for prom. I wanted to go with a group of girlfriends, but my mom says that isn’t “prom,” so I don’t know what I should do. Not go to prom, or go to prom with friends and see my ex with another girl. I don’t know what I should do! I have prayed about it, but I am impatient.
I’m going to be as honest as I can, because you deserve it! I hope I don’t come across as harsh at all, because that’s not my...
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