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My boyfriend lives far away. We never see each other, but we video chat a lot. He has been feeling very depressed. He sleeps all day, won’t answer my invites, and is always mad at people. He said he didn’t want to get me in to his problems because he doesn’t want to hurt me. What should I do?
This isn't an easy question
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I’ve had a crush on one of my guy friends for a while. For a while, I really thought he liked me back. He would always flirt with me and stuff. A friend convinced me to tell him that I like him, which I kind of regret now. He was really nice for a while, but then he started liking one of my best friends, and she liked him back, despite of me and my feelings. (I’m having a really hard time forgiving her for that!) Well, they broke up today. Should I let him know that I still like him? Or should I even like him?
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I have been with this guy for about three months. I have been hurt quite a lot during our relationship, and I’m just not sure if he is with me for the right reasons. When we used to talk, we would laugh and talk seriously, but now it’s all about sex. He tells me he loves me, but maybe he’s lying. He told me I’m too good for him… Is this a sign he wants it to be over?
I'm sorry you're hurting in
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My boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me last week. Lately he's been texting me. It kind of seems like he wants to get back together, but I’m not sure. He texts me about taking the same classes for summer school, and he even made a comment about coming to visit me when I move in the fall. When he broke up with me I just wanted to die, but now I’m not sure whether he wants me back. I’m so confused. Please help!
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I am (sadly) 19 and have never been in love…or on a date…or anything. I've had tons of guy friends. I'm not interested in girls—I am interested in guys, just not in any guy I know or have met. So a friend is about to confess he likes me and wants to go out. Should I date him and get the experience? I think that would be wrong.... but I don't know. I'm starting to feel like I'll never fall in love and end up alone romantically. What should I do?
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My boyfriend of three months and I are both Christians and really love God. Even though he isn’t a virgin, he loves me, respects me, and doesn't want to have sex until we're married. But I still feel myself compromising for him, and I don't want to always be the one stopping us from going further. We set clear boundaries, but over the last week we went past those boundaries, so now we've set even stricter ones. I'm scared that we're going to go farther again. We're only 16. I don't think we'd be able to get married for at least two years. If a guy has a problem with lust, is that a reason not to be with him? How can we keep God at the center of our relationship?
I absolutely believe you when
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Being in college, I am really focusing on my walk with the Lord and finding my purpose. My boyfriend of three years supports my faith and has come to church occasionally, but I really feel the need to marry a godly man. With this said, I made a really difficult decision to end things. It was a struggle between having such an easy, loving and comfortable relationship, and wanting to wait for the man God has made for me... Now, though, I'm stuck here thinking no man will ever love me as much as he did! I can't help but think this is going to be a long and lonely period of waiting around, while he moves on thinking I'm crazy and finding another girl! Have you ever experienced a situation like this? Have any encouraging words that I made the right decision?
For what it's worth, I
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I recently transferred schools and I’m just starting to really connect with the other kids in the school. It’s great! Well, there's this boy in the school who I really, REALLY like, and he really likes me too, and we both want to go out. Here’s the problem: One of my new friends used to go out with him and still really likes him, and pretty much hates any other girl that likes him. I really want to be friends with her, but this guys means sooooo much to me! Should I save the friendship or go out with this AMAZING guy who I REALLLLY like? HELP!!!
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The guy I like has a girlfriend, but she lives far away and doesn’t even go to our school. I want to ask him out, but I am afraid he will say no. What should I do? Should I ask him out for the dance? Should I tell him how I feel about him? I think he likes me too.
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I know that God is helping me get through the pain of my boyfriend breaking up with me. But it hurts so much—I can’t stop crying. Knowing that he has forgotten about me and moved on makes me so sad and it's making me go crazy. I started to drink, hoping the pain will go away, but my heart feels like it’s ripping apart because of him.
Oh, sis! I am so sorry that it hurts so much. Breakups are never easy, but
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I’ve known a boy that a like for about five years. The problem is that he might like friend number one, and friend number one doesn’t like him. Then friend number two likes him, but he doesn’t like her. And I like him, and I think he likes me. He comes over to my house a lot, but I don’t know if he’s just there for friends one and two, or for me. I like him so much. What should I do?
Sounds like a crush triangle if I ever saw one! :-) Alright, so here's
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My boyfriend and I have both just graduated high school, and are going to different colleges this fall. I have no idea how to make a long distance relationship work. We agreed that this is a relationship we really want to work on, but I'm worried that once he gets there, he's going to forget all about me. After all, he'll be surrounded by hot college girls out on the hunt for a college boyfriend, parties, and clubs. I know I sound so insecure and clingy and jealous, but I don't want to be! I'm really trying to surrender my worries to God, and to trust both God and my boyfriend, but it's really hard! What can I do to help my relationship with my boyfriend last through the distance and separation of college?
I've given a lot of thought to your question, and (ironically) it boils down to one
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Is it wrong to get that fluttery feeling in your stomach whenever there is a guy you like around, or when he hugs you or something? Is that actually liking someone, or is that just being silly?
No, the "fluttery feeling" isn't wrong, but we girls have to be careful that
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I've been dating this guy for three months. He's not a virgin anymore, but I am, and every time we talk on the phone, he talks about how the next time we see each other he wants to have sex with me. I really like this guy, but I’m feeling pressure to have sex with him when I’m not ready to lose my virginity. I’m afraid that if I say no I will lose him. He wants to have a family with me, but I’m not sure this is the guy I want to be with. I don’t know what to do!
You have a great question, sis. The answer is surprisingly simple, but of course,
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My boyfriend is a senior and he's not a Christian. I'm a freshman and I am a Christian. I know that sounds like the perfect recipe for disaster, but I know that he respects me and my boundaries and he is completely open to Christianity. My parents like him a lot and trust that he won't do anything to put me in any harm. We take him to church with us on most weekends. My boyfriend, although he is not a Christian, is "spiritual but not religious," meaning he believes in all the principles of being a Christian, but is not necessarily tied to one religion. I consider him more respectful and honest than most of the Christian guys that I grew up with. He doesn't take advantage of me, and if he wants to do something with me that he deems questionable, he always asks me first. Bottom line, if I am in a relationship with a guy who is not a Christian, but he is being drawn closer to God through me, is there anything wrong with that?
While a three or four year age difference in high school is a bigger
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I haven't had a boyfriend in awhile, and I'm not sure if it’s me that's stopping me or if God doesn't want me to have one. I guess I just want to feel wanted, but I also want to do what God wants me to do. I guess I'm having a hard time dealing with no boyfriend!
Well, I'm not God, so I can't tell you what He's up to in
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I've been talking to a boy for a few months now. I just went out with him, but he hasn't talked to me since then. I always get depressed when he doesn't text me, which makes me feel too clingy and insecure, but my friends say that he likes me and that I don't need to worry. Do you have any advice that will help me from feeling this way?
Hi sis,
Great question! I obviously can't tell you whether or not this guy is into you, but I can definitely give you some encouragement to help you...
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My boyfriend just dumped me. He said he wasn't ready for a relationship yet. What should I say or do?
I'm sorry that it hurts, sis! Breakups are painful, there's just no way around that. But after a good cry-it-out and a handful of chocolate chips,...
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I like this guy, and I’m pretty sure that he likes me. He’s a year younger than me, and my friends don’t like him because he makes stupid jokes. He’s really fun, but I don’t know if I should like him or not! And if I do, should I make the first move or wait?
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This boy I like knows I like him, and we talk a lot. But I don’t know if he’s a Christian. How do I ask him without ruining what I have with him?
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